What I learned about money, happiness and slowing down

Holly with a mug of tea, enjoying a tranquil morning as the sun rises

I recently did something that might surprise you…I spent a few nights at a Buddhist Centre. Why?

1) It's needed.

Because I've consciously given a lot of energy to a number of things over the last few months and wanted time to recharge a little.  

2) It's intentional.

The centre is particularly peaceful, and my stay included guided meditations. I know about myself that I need help and accountability to slow down.

3) It's genuine.

Space and support for regular reflection is what I offer my clients (and fiercely advocate for) so I make it a priority to build this into my year.

As someone who works with money and big picture thinking every day, taking time away to reflect, rest, and learn felt both necessary and luxurious. What I discovered there has shifted something fundamental in how I think about both purpose and money…

The universal quest for happiness

One of the most profound reminders I heard from the Buddhist teachers was beautifully simple: “every single person on this planet shares the same fundamental goal...to be happy.”

Buddhist or not, rich or poor, busy entrepreneur or contemplative free spirit, we're all seeking the same thing. But the hard truth is that we are the ONLY person who can make ourselves truly happy.

This insight hit me particularly hard because I spend so much time helping people deeply connect with their own version of an enriched life or purposeful work. It’s rarely about the next income milestone, the perfect project, or even financial security that people envision. It’s the moments of joy, fulfilment, connection, and meaning. Often, and especially with the big-hearted individuals and teams I work with, it’s about making a positive impact in the world. But it starts with YOU and how you focus on and cultivate happiness within. This is how you can then best serve others.

Money is like air. We all have to deal with it

I had a fascinating realisation during my stay. Even at this serene Buddhist centre, money was everywhere...and that wasn't a contradiction or failure of spiritual principles. There was a fundraising campaign for building repairs, an on-site café serving delicious cakes and coffees, a gift shop with books and meditation supplies, and yes, a fee for staying there.

The perfect reminder that money is like air. We all have to breathe, and we all have to deal with money. But money doesn't have to mess with your virtue, your values, or your mission in the world. In fact, it can enhance them and help you share good things with more people.

This is an important lesson for all of us who sometimes feel conflicted about earning money while doing meaningful work. Money can be a tool for good, a way to amplify our positive impact in the world. Remember, money doesn’t change who you are, it fuels what you’re here for.

Taking the pressure off

Perhaps the most practical lesson I'm bringing home is about pace. In slowing down and surrounding myself with nature, learning, and rest, I felt pressure lift from my shoulders. I found myself moving with more ease and grace.

And newsflash…I didn’t suddenly become lazy or unambitious!

Releasing the pressure valve helps us recognise that sustainable success comes from a place of ‘groundedness’, not frantic energy. This experience reminded me that we must consciously make time to focus, to reflect, and to simply be. In our distraction-filled world, this feels both radical and essential.

I captured this quote from one of the lessons I attended on cultivating inner peace:

“We must do away with the distractions and take the time and effort to focus.”

The invitation to pause

As I integrate these lessons back into my work and life, I'm reminded why I'm so passionate about providing space and support that helps purpose-led people form a clear plan and the confidence with money to implement it.

When we're at peace with our purpose and with money, we can focus on what truly matters: creating positive impact, building meaningful connections, and yes, finding genuine happiness.

Whilst taking time out for myself, it reminded me of the importance of regularly creating space for reflection and learning. Sometimes the most productive thing we can do is to pause, breathe deeply, and remember what we're really working toward.

What would happen if you gave yourself permission to slow down, just a little? What insights might be waiting for you in the quiet spaces between your busy moments?

With warmth, Holly

P.S. If stepping back from the day to day doesn't come naturally and you’d like some support, it would be my pleasure to act as your guide. My strategic support services, The Money Quest, or my Restore & Rise retreats, are all ways I’m here to help you shine a light on what truly matters and get where you want to be.

I'll leave you with this picture of my 2 new friends! A gorgeous pair of donkeys - one white and one black and white - pose for the camera.